At the convocation we got the degree which was a license to set our footsteps into the corporate world. But it also made us eligible for a more risky and dangerous sport.
These days I keep receiving marriage invitations from my friends - a few love and the remaining arranged and that forces me to think in one direction love v/s arranged marriages.
Right from childhood days, I have seen my cousins and relatives tie the knot with someone whom they knew only through a few formal meetings. It always surprised me and left me baffled as to how someone can make the decision of a life partner based on just a few meetings and references of some relatives. But that’s how it has always been, Indian weddings have always been equated with arranged marriages.
Now thinking of arranged marriage from the MBA perspective, its all about setting your 4Ps right. The product is presented well and promoted through various channels of relatives. We all know about the scene when the guy goes to the gal’s house for some focus group discussion. The price is which both the counterparts have to pay throughout their lives. The projects NPV is then calculated by a third party discounting the cash flows with the rate calculated as per astrologer’s judgements. The merger between two unknown companies is undertaken and the organisation’s culture undergoes a change. The policies undergo a reform to accommodate the new employees. And the story begins…A blind game which can go either ways….full of compromises….full of adjustments just to keep up the bond….just to be part of the society…Isnt this scary!!!
Thinking of love marriage, its more like an option which one can exercise at any date. In case the option does not turn out to be favourable, all that is lost is the premium. But it does not mean that it always is profitable in the long term. The decision for this stock may not be based considering all the shareholders. Hence in a joint family it often results into issues. Also when in love people try to be at their best. Its only after marriage that one knows the real person. This too is dangerous. After putting in so much of equity capital still you are not sure of returns.
Arranged marriages have the choice made through the experienced eye of the elders, but the information is only that available publicly. The insider information comes out well in case of love marriages. We also need to understand people who are influenced by cinema or peers to develop a love relation. Such often end up in a mess. The beauty of love is the feeling of having someone whom you know well and share similar thoughts. On the contrary, arranged marriages are like a challenge. It’s a high risk high return game.
Which format of the game do you support? What is your company vision and corporate strategy?
I prefer to be an entrepreneur all my life…starting new ventures independently without any partners…
I ask only one question…’Why is marriage so damn important?
ahem ahem... do tell me if u find the answer to the question asked in the end...
ReplyDeletelols :P
Very well anlayzed bro. This does prove you actually did study MBA and not just passed time. I can understand the dilemma, but what i dont understand is do you have a choice?
ReplyDeleteI bet you are running out of time before your valuation goes down at an exponential rate. Also in your branch of business(community), the shelf life is pretty less as well . so your days are numbered.
Why is marriage important?
it is important to have company . Since your friends are not going to be there throughout your life this is a second best option. But having company does not necessarily mount to marriage , does it? It is the society that has given it so much importance. like how you can not decided how much a 100 rupee note is worth, the government decides.
--Sajid
A very good blog....keep it up dude...
ReplyDeleteI am on the side of love though...no matter what...
lets take the issues one by one
ReplyDelete1. You dont choose the person whom u want to fall in love.. you just do... So where does the question of being the best wen u r in a relationship arise.. On the contrary in an arranged marriage you be ur best during the ladka/ladki dekhna dikhana phase.
2. When in a relationship people know each other for their goods and bads.. think abt it, when u spend 24/7 with a person, how long can you pretend to be somebody u r not.. and sometimes things might change after marriage coz u take each other for granted thts it....
3. And about returns, atleast in a love marriage you know wat risks you r taking.. and the good thing YOU r taking those risks and not somebody else for u..
4. it is said tht if u dnt know the person ull spend ur lifetime unravelling it, nd it wud be exciting(all those who favour arrange).. but a question, jab hum un logon se dosti nahi kar sakte jinko hum theek se jaante nahi hai, ya thoda jaan ke u got to know tht they r nt ur types and how can u get married to SOMEBODY whom u know nothing about.
SHADI kyun karni hai??? in India simply coz thts how the society here works.. and the whole indian culture crap... but ya one imp reason is stabillity.. in wat sense u gotta think abt it...
All i wud say is LIVE IN ROCKS
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Well well... viral u have just proved with this blog that ur a hardcore mba talking... coz only an mba can complicate and sit to analyse terms such love and marriage... when these things are just emotions and feelings which can never be defined... they are just captured in moments and are sealed for a lifetime... so no one can explain that why a girl and a guy say yes to each other though they have already seen so many prospective brides and bridegrooms in the past... a girl doesnt have an answer that why she said a yes to a guy X and wat she liked in him... though it is an arranged marriage there is some spark in the heart called emotions that trigger a yes... or in a love marriage there is no answer why two people decide to spend their whole life together... this can never be analyzed nor debated nor discussed... only felt... and i feel that as we get more and more educated we get more and more analytical and loose our roots of being full of love and emotions...
ReplyDeleteNicely written... your analysis was interesting and quite amusing at the same time... reading ur blog for the first time.
ReplyDeleteWhether its love or arranged, marriage definitely means making some adjustments... being more patient, more understanding and sensitive to your partner... and not become combative... for even simple things. Work out your differences and move on... neither method is good or bad in my opinion. Life is what you make of it... so is marriage I should say.